They say that there is only one question, one significant question, and if you know the answer to that question, all other questions are already meaningless. I can tell you for sure that: “What is the difference between Sandokan and Children from Bullerbyn?” (LOL) … is not that question.

But let's focus today on (others) less significant questions and ideas concerning language learning.

In this post I will give you some of them and I will not answer them. Intentionally. Maybe you have noticed that every answer brings only more questions to ask. Maybe you have also noticed that somebody else's answers to YOUR questions somehow don't work too. Ask - yes – ask, but do not expect immediate answer. Ask, be attentive and the answer will come – one day (or night). The authentic YOUR answer will come.

Here is a few questions and ideas (that I can recall now) to ponder over. Maybe they will give you some inspiration, maybe some insight or just fun:

(LOL)

By answering the LAST (literaly) question you would solve the ultimate puzzle and all previous (and sequential) answers would become irrelevant. But would it be fun without it anymore? Maybe the glimpses of that answer are (for us, here on this planet and NOW at this moment) enough, don't you think?

Everybody says that LOVE is good, beautiful, magnificent... but SELF-LOVE? Some people have somehow negative connotations implanted in their heads about it. They think that it is some kind of selfishness, egoism or something like that. But it does not make any sense. Love is only one and it is similar to the LIGHT which radiates out of its source without any distinguishing, to all directions, it is unconditional and for everybody. It has it source and that source is inside of YOU, it radiates outside and it radiates inside too.

I listen every morning these beautiful meditative affirmations by Luise L. Hay. I have been listening them for years, so I memorized it. Hopefully some of them came also into my subconscious mind. I would like you to enjoy them too:

Deep at the center of my being,
there is an infinite well of love.
I now allow this love to flow to the surface.
It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness,
my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions
and returns to me multiplied.
The more love I use and give, the more I have to give.
The supply is endless.
The use of love makes me feel good,
it is an expression of my inner joy.

I love myself;
therefore, I take loving care of my body.
I lovingly feed it nourishing foods and beverages,
I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly
responds to me with vibrant health and energy.

I love myself; therefore provide for myself
a comfortable home, one that fills
all my needs and is a pleasure to be in.
I fill the rooms with the vibration of love
so that all who enter, myself included,
will feel this love and be nourished by it.

I love myself; therefore I work at a job I truly enjoy
doing, one that uses my creative talents and abilities,
working with and for people I love and who love me,
and earning a good income.

I love myself; therefore, I behave and think in a loving
way to all people for I know that that which I give out
returns to me multiplied.
I only attract loving people in my world,
for they are a mirror of what I am.

I love myself; therefore I forgive and totally release
the past and all past experiences and I am free.

I love myself; therefore I live totally in the now,
experiencing each moment as good and knowing that
my future is bright and joyous and secure,
for I am a beloved child of the Universe
and the Universe lovingly takes care of me
now and forever more.

And so it is.
This is Luise Hay and I love you.

by Louise Hay, from "You Can Heal Your Life"

http://www.hayhouse.com


And here you can see my own version – me reciting by heart ;-)

What, the hack, have these words in common? You could ask.

They have a lot of in common – it is the essence of language learning. I wrote about mistakes and making mistakes in my previous post, so today just shortly, maybe a small complement. If you want to do (and learn) something new, perhaps slightly but new, it is natural that you are not very good at it and what is the result? At the beginning you make more mistakes than if you were engaged in your usual rut (normal, well known) activity. You cannot avoid these mistakes, or better to say, you can but you will move only in a circle – no learning, no movement forward. It is up to you, you can choose. Children make more mistakes than we adults and the result? No need to comment.

So, allow yourself to make mistakes and this way you will allow yourself to learn. Some people unfortunately struggle with this approach.

I would like to share a short story concerning this topic with you. I know a young woman. She is a beautiful, clever, very intelligent and successful woman. I noticed that she has a small board with English vocabulary hanging on the wall in her office above her desk. We made a small chat about it. She has been learning English for a while, she is attending some courses... Her young boy is also learning English at school. He could be 12 or similar age and he is probably at lover level of language knowledge than she (his mother) is. One day he downloaded some move in original (English) language. They both started watching it. She told me one thing that struck me at that time and I had to think of it. She told me that she was VERY FRUSTRATED by not understanding it well and that her boy was on the other hand quite well and at ease. He told her that he can catch the meaning what is going on in that movie. He was fine, she was frustrated. After a short time she even finished watching it at all. He enjoyed it to the end. What happened? Yes, movies are not easy stuff for learning foreign languages... I could write about it more and I will do maybe in some next post, but now I would focus on the approach of those two „learners“. She wanted to understand fully, every word, 100% and it was not possible! She did not allow herself to make any mistakes. Yes, if you do not understand well, some parts, or nearly anything – it is a mistake. What else? She did not allow that. She a bit a perfectionist. And her learning process stopped – for that moment because of too many mistakes she were doing and was not able to accept. But what about to put it upside-down? What if she would see it differently? She could see that she can UNDERSTAND SOMETHING! That there is already some progress, some knowledge, something to be GRATEFUL for. And we have here the gratitude. It is much better feeling than the frustration. Much better approach for learning the language, isn't it? Gratitude, appreciation, joy, love, acceptance, peace or... shortly feeling well instead. And despite those mistakes you can continue to learn and you can enjoy the process at the same time. You are at FLOW!
It applies not only for language learning.

They say “learn from mistakes”. I agree with that. I had always been for this approach but a few days ago I realized something that changed completely my paradigm. It was kind of AHA-moment! I see it now differently and if it is true, it has significant implications. So, I told myself that I must share it with you.

Look at the sentence itself, and look attentively - “LEARN FROM MISTAKES”

Can you see it? The answer is there… and is in the middle. The answer is “FROM”. I realized it in the morning, before being fully awaken. Still in my bed. I realize that maybe better would be to say “learn AWAY FROM mistakes”. What I want to say? I want to say: do not pay so big attention to your mistakes. If you are aware of your mistake, OK, but go forward. If you speak, for example, continue, do not stop, do not return to that mistake. Focus yourself to activity itself, do not waste energy, go ahead. There will be a lot of mistakes and a lot of opportunities to say it right way. Later.

I see those mistakes just like some stepping stones we use for moving to the higher levels. If you are running upstairs you would not turn back all the time. This way you would either significantly slow down your pace or you would finish your activity quickly with an accident.

Imagine yourself that you are a small boy or girl and you have a new bike. You are learning to use it, to ride it. It is not easy in the beginning. Maybe you have fallen. It was an error. Will you focus on that error so much, all the time, to be afraid to fall again, to think how not to fall, why you fell…? With this attitude you would probably never learn how to bike at all. I think that children (fortunately) have a little bit different approach. The child can see a friend biking and do it the same way, do what works, and after some difficulties, gets skills to do it quite right. There is no need to analyze initial troubles too much. This way the children learn naturally. The same it is with learning to walk or to speak their mother tongue.

At school it is somehow else. The teacher marks errors by red color and all attention (energy) is focused on them. It is so big problem! But I see it now as an artificial problem. It is not a problem of the student but a big problem of the school system itself! The focus in on a bad side, the negative side. The side where the energy is wasted like in some “black hole”.

What I would suggest? I would suggest even to use different terms for those mistakes or errors – maybe something like “nearly right”, “half right”, “partially right”... After all this is a process of learning and it will improve gradually and automatically. Look at small children. Do we correct them this way too when they learn their mother tongue? What they (and we learners) need are only right models to imitate and those mistakes gradually disappear (on its own accord).

The obsession with the “correctness” leads only to lack of fluency and destroys natural zest for language. It creates in us the notion that the language learning is something difficult, unpleasant and probably even beyond our possibilities. It prevents us from using the language with joy and without using it we cannot actually learn it well.

As you could maybe noticed in my previous posts, I frequently say that the best teacher for languages is listening, and especially listening to native speakers. The native speakers can serve us as real role models - we can imitate and learn from them. Yes, who else could be better for this purpose?

The answer is paradoxical – a NON-NATIVE speaker! It is true that the perfect pronunciation, the right stress, the melody of voice, the nice fluency and the rich vocabulary... we can find usually in the speech of a native speaker. But keep in mind that the majority of users of English language in this world today are non-natives. You are also one of them (probably). The English we are learning is intended to be the mean of communication. You will use is with both natives and not-natives.

I found in some stage of my English journey (and my friends confirmed me my experience too) that in many cases is the listening to somebody who was not born in English speaking country quite demanding. In some cases more difficult than listening to any native Englishman or American or Australian. Sometimes it could be quite a challenge. We, language learners, usually complain that the natives talk too quickly. In my opinion it is not the biggest problem. Maybe the bigger is the slang and idioms. Of course, the listening needs some practice (like everything).

My point is that the listening to a non-native speaker could be a good practice, a good valuable exercise. Of course that the bulk of your study should be based on a “proper” English, especially in the beginning of your journey. But after while you do it I would suggest to incorporate non-natives too. I remember myself when I started to listen Osho for example. It was really a challenge for me. Fortunately there were transcripts available. After while I accustomed to his pronunciation, voice, vocabulary. By the way his vocabulary is quite rich. It is true that he does (maybe I should say DID – he passed away a long time ago) some mistakes while speaking. But is it a problem? Definitely not for him. Maybe even we, who are learning English, can gain from that - noticing them a learning from these errors. On the other hand, I would be careful to listen such materials too early. There is a possibility to learn this incorrect English (we usually do at school from our school mates anyway) By the way not to forgot to read my disclaimer :)

There is a lot interesting people on this planet and you can speak (read or write) with nearly all of them in English, there is a lot of materials in English available today. Some of them were created by not-native speakers and are worthy to listen or read (e.g. this blog :-) LOL)

One of another such people I like to listen is Deepak Chopra (born in India) Enjoy this short video (extract from Deepak Chopra - How to know God)

The transcript:

Around 1890 chief Crowfoot a Blackfoot Indian was dying
and he whispered into the ear of a missionary father:
What is life?
It is the flash of a firefly in the night.
It is the breath of a buffalo in the winter time.
It is the little shadow that runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset.
Life as we know it flickers out all too fast In death we return to the light, the source where we all began
Then, all of reality has only one source
You are that source
God is our highest instinct to know ourselves.


The Persian mystic poet Rumi once said,
When I die I will soar with the angels,
And when I die to the angels,
What I shall become you cannot imagine.